In the unfortunate event a condolence message is needed, it’s often
difficult to know what to write. One of the most difficult times in
anyone’s life, losing someone can seem like nothing else in the
world matters. Receiving a message from a caring friend or relative
can ease the intensity ever so slightly and brings to reality just
how much people care.
To begin, a condolence message should, where possible, be solely
hand-written. As well as adding a personal touch, it shows that you
have taken the time out to write the message, rather than simply
writing the message on a computer or through a Dictaphone and having
|When writing the message, try to imagine you are talking to the
person face to face. It provides a much more personal touch and will
make the bereaved feel that little more comfortable whilst reading
Start the message by first acknowledging the bereavement, following
this with your most sincere condolences. If you knew the deceased
well, after this initial introduction it would be ideal time to
mention some endearing qualities about the deceased.
Mentioning a section about what you remember about the deceased –
your happy memories, for example –
“I fondly remember when … and I…” – would add a happy touch to the
message, relieving some of the unfortunate sadness from the
To begin the end of the condolence message, it is always good to
offer any help you can. Whether it is helping with arranging any
funeral preparations or inviting the recipient of the letter for a
coffee to get out of the house, anything you can offer would be
greatly appreciated – it may not be accepted, but it will definitely
Personalizing the message with an ending line mentioning the
recipients name is recommend to add that final, personal touch to
your condolence message.
Of course, there are simple condolence messages available. A simple,
one sentence message such as “[name] will be missed dearly so and I
hope they are as happy in their new life as they were in this one”
can be all that’s needed to get your condolences across to the
Condolence messages are always difficult to write – it’s hard not to
come across as apologetic rather than sympathetic. Taking your time
writing the condolence message will be well worth it for the
recipient of the message. 1. Our
thoughts and prayers are with you.
2. Although it's difficult today to see beyond the sorrow,
may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow
3. May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.
4. May the blessings of love be upon you,
May its peace abide with you,
May its essence illuminate your heart,
Now and forever more
5. Hold tight to memories for comfort,
lean on your friends for strength,
and always remember how much you are cared about.
6. We pray the love of God enfolds you during your difficult
and he helps you heal with the passage of time.
7. May the love of those around you help you through the days
8. Please accept our most heartfelt sympathies for your loss.
Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult
9. Our hearts go out to you in your time of sorrow.
10. Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in
where the love of our lost ones pours through
and shines down upon
us to let us know that are happy.
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